Recently, I visited my daughter Daania's school for her Sports day and then again for the annual day. However, apart from watching my daughter participate in fun stuff, there is something else that made me to think. It was the parents behavior. No matter what rules school authorities set or how many times they request politely to the parents to please sit on their seats and do not click pictures and let everyone enjoy the event, the over-enthusiastic parents do not budge. They will defy all the rules, ignore social norms of decent behavior. Noteworthy is that, these are well-educated people who work in the best organizations, carry the best pay-packages and have all the luxuries in the world. We are not talking about illiterate people who do not understand the meaning of principles. They do. BUT they choose not to follow it.
I also see this class of people in Malls and food-courts, where you are about to take your seat and some decent looking lady or smartly dressed child just pushes you and takes your seat and then the proud parents/ other family members came triumphantly and take their rightful seat. ( clearly they have won this round ). Poor me, most of the time I look at these people with amazement, sometimes wonder, sometimes disgust and sometimes with pity.
I guess, such parents are trying their children to teach a lesson. The lesson is that it is OKAY to defy the rules, trample underfoot others and be go-getters. Just focus on the goal. May be their children will become winners, may be not. But, what I foresee is, a future where people don't play fair. No regard to social etiquette, manners, respect. I am teaching my child to be respectful towards elders, loving and kind to not only friends and family but also towards other human beings and animals. I teach her that it is okay to lose as long as you try with all your might. I teach her to love life and enjoy, nothing else matters. It saddens my heart to feel that if I succeed in what I seek, my daughter will be one of a dying breed. May be she will be sensitive enough to care for everyone else and she is the one who will suffer because of the new breed of parenting that I see everywhere.
I wish this world to be a kinder and safer place. I wish everyone should respect others. Come one, if you do not click your child's photograph while performing or you will have to wait for another 5 minutes in a mall, it will not be the end of the world. Nothing will change. Can't you just sit back and enjoy the performance of your child, whistle, scream and have a ball. This time is not going to come again. So, enjoy while letting others also do the same. Cheers!!!
I also see this class of people in Malls and food-courts, where you are about to take your seat and some decent looking lady or smartly dressed child just pushes you and takes your seat and then the proud parents/ other family members came triumphantly and take their rightful seat. ( clearly they have won this round ). Poor me, most of the time I look at these people with amazement, sometimes wonder, sometimes disgust and sometimes with pity.
I guess, such parents are trying their children to teach a lesson. The lesson is that it is OKAY to defy the rules, trample underfoot others and be go-getters. Just focus on the goal. May be their children will become winners, may be not. But, what I foresee is, a future where people don't play fair. No regard to social etiquette, manners, respect. I am teaching my child to be respectful towards elders, loving and kind to not only friends and family but also towards other human beings and animals. I teach her that it is okay to lose as long as you try with all your might. I teach her to love life and enjoy, nothing else matters. It saddens my heart to feel that if I succeed in what I seek, my daughter will be one of a dying breed. May be she will be sensitive enough to care for everyone else and she is the one who will suffer because of the new breed of parenting that I see everywhere.
I wish this world to be a kinder and safer place. I wish everyone should respect others. Come one, if you do not click your child's photograph while performing or you will have to wait for another 5 minutes in a mall, it will not be the end of the world. Nothing will change. Can't you just sit back and enjoy the performance of your child, whistle, scream and have a ball. This time is not going to come again. So, enjoy while letting others also do the same. Cheers!!!
true !!!!!!!!!!!
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