Give me some sun-shine...

" Give me some sun-shine,

Give me some rain..

Give me another chance,

 wana grow up once again."

These lines from the famous movie, 3 idiots..imply that if given a change, you would probably do things differently..

I guess all of us when look back at our life, there are certain moments that you want to change..certain things you want to do differently..
I also feel the same..there are so many things that I would love to change if possible..
But, if I think about it..those experiences, those heart-breaks, those stupidities give you such experiences, teach you such incredible things that would not have been possible without them...
Life is nothing is there are no bitter-sweet memories..
No doubt, there are heart-burns and pains and aches..
But those are the essence of the life..the experiences that make you wise.
Had you never lost a beautiful friendship, you would never know the true value of a  friend...
Had you not loved and lost, you would never really know how it feels to love someone utterly..
that it seems impossible to breathe...
But yet, you lost the love of your life..and still lived...
You know, you can still learn to love again, smile again..make new friends again...and probably do it right this time...
Had you not made those silly mistakes, you wouldn't know how it feels....
There is only one life to love..
No doubt, we make mistakes in life and keep making mistakes..
But it gives us something far more valuable...
Give us something to learn..look back in life and tell stories..
It gives us wisdom..

I am sorry for so many things in life..
Things I could have done differently
Wish, I was more mature..
Wish, I was less emotional..
Wish, I wasn't so easy to fool.
Wasn't so trusting...
The list is long..
But, these very flaws make me who I am...
Makes me unique...
I am flawed but thats how God made me...
So, why change it ..
Even if given a second change, I will retain my identity..my individuality...

" Give me some-shine
Give me some rain
Give me another chance
I wana do it once again."

Give and take relationships..

I read somewhere, that the relationships in which you count what someone has done for you and what you have done for someone are not friendship..they are not your friends but creditors if you keep score.

But, most of the relationships that we make these days- are centred around keeping score. You invited me for dinner, now it is my turn..you invited my daughter to play this time, next time I will. You messaged, I replied. You liked my pic, I will like yours ans so on...

But, if you stop messaging, you will stop receiving as well. You stop calling friends and family, they will stop calling you.

This does not mean that you are not kind, compassionate and caring..ditto for your friends and family. Everyone is a wonderful human being, loving and caring. But, we are conditioned to reciprocate. Never to forget the kindness done to us or the hurt that anyone caused us.

There is a severe side-effect of this kind of mentality. You never make the true relationships. You are too busy keeping score..everything being noted in that little diary in your brain, calculating the worth of your efforts and the next party's efforts as well..In this process, the heart is ruled by the mind..

I wish, relationships be free from mathematics and calculations...I wish, we could be childlike again..I wish, even in this age of  pomp and show, nothing else should matter, but warmth and compassion.

I have heard this, It is good to forgive, but it is better to forget..

Be forgetful, be naive, be carefree...

Enjoy life as it comes..

Don't keep score..

Do what you feel like and forget about it...

Life will be even more beautiful!!!

Pain and Life

Pain and life are inseparable. If you can still feel pain, if you still feel hurt and betrayed- be happy!! Because that means that you are still alive....
Pain is good..it means you are still human. The innocence is still there..that means the child in you is yet not died...that means..you still have the capability to love and to be loved.
Don't let small hurdles and little hurt take you down.
Don't let some carefree soul hurt you to the extent that you stop believing in love, friendship and kindness.
One day, you will get the right kind of friends...
One day, you will be surrounded by those you love and those who love you unconditionally.
It is not uncommon..
It is there..people still love each other without any expectations..
They still care and share..
If you haven't felt it yet, don't worry..it will happen..
You have not found the right kind of people for you yet..
It may seem long..it may seem forever..
The hurt may be unbearable..
But remember, it is this pain, that will make it worthwhile..
If you haven't faced rejection, how can you appreciate acceptance..
If you haven't been hurt and haven't faced anger,
how can you appreciate the affection and the happiness...
Feel the pain and enjoy it while it is there...
Let it tear you apart..
Let it make a new you..
Pain is good..
Enjoy it and be ready to embark on a new journey!!